Today, we’ll review one of the more popular “get a girlfriend” programs out there. We’ll see what it’s like, what its strengths are, and whether we recommend it for you.
Girlfriend Activation System: Quick Review
The Girlfriend Activation System was created by Christian Hudson. Christian managed the dating company Charisma Arts from 2004 to 2006. In 2008, he started his own company called The Social Man with his best friend and wingman, Nick Sparks.
Christian’s advice is different from other coaches’ — he uses a holistic approach to dating. For him, it’s not just about getting into good relationships with women. It’s also about having a good relationship with the rest of the world and with yourself.
Christian’s company hosts coaching bootcamps in New York City. The Girlfriend Activation System is a collection of videos from one of his bootcamps. The videos are all centered around one theme: Getting a girlfriend.
What’s Inside The Girlfriend Activation System
In the next part of this Girlfriend Activation System review we’ll dig further into its six different parts:
Part 1: “Be The Obvious Choice.” The program’s overarching goal is to become the “obvious choice” for the girl you want. There are other guys in her life right now – she should be able to look at them, then at you, and then choose you.
The cornerstone skill that Christian teaches is INVESTMENT. He introduces it in this Part and then fleshes it out in the other Parts. He emphasizes that for a relationship to work out, investment levels have to match.
Part 2: “The Relationship Ready Mind.” In Part 2, Christian tackles the mindset part of the equation. If you’ve read or tried other programs before, this Part qualifies as the “Inner Game” portion. The difference is that the Girlfriend Activation System uses a more holistic approach.
The program urges the individual to have a good relationship with the world first. Once he has that, then he can try getting a girlfriend. Christian fleshes the concept out by talking about toxic beliefs and lingering resentment. These are examples of what holds men back from having good relationships with women.
Part 3: “Unforgettable First Impressions.” In Part 3, Christian talks about standing out in a girl’s circle. He emphasizes being in a position of authority and having playful arrogance. It’s all about being the “king” in a given situation. These are the qualities that make women see you as the “obvious choice” or the “least worst option” in her circle.
Part 4: “Fearless Approaching.” Part 4 is the most entertaining video in the program. It’s narrated by Christian’s wingman and best friend, Nick Sparks. Nick is the author of Fearless, a program that focused on helping men overcome their many fears.
Nick talks in a more comedic way than Christian, making for an entertaining 20 minutes. He gives a good number of tips to follow when meeting a woman for the first time. The tips in this Part are pickup-heavy. You’ll learn about eye contact, presence, and steering a conversation with a woman.
Part 5: “Dating to Sex.” Christian returns in Part 5. Here, he gives tips and step-by-step sequences to lead a woman through the first few dates. The goal: To get her into your apartment.
Part 6: “Sex to Girlfriend.” In Part 6, Christian wraps up the program with more tips and sequences. The goal: To move the relationship into the “boyfriend-girlfriend” stage.
So does The Girlfriend Activation System deliver on its promises? Or is it just another run-of-the-mill video program? Let’s take a closer look.
Girlfriend Activation System: The Positives
The Girlfriend Activation System focuses lightly on the pickup aspect of things. True to its name, it focuses on one thing: Helping the viewer get a girlfriend. Nothing more, and nothing less. As such, the advice you’ll get from it feels less rough and suave, and more insightful and conservative.
A good portion of the program revolves around life lessons like:
- You got to have high self-esteem
- You need to have a good relationship with the rest of the world
- You need to be an authority in some areas
- You need to know how to be a leader of other people
- You got to love women and hold them in high regard
- You need to let go of any lingering resentment against your past girlfriends
These lessons may be cliché, but they’re lessons every man needs to learn over and over again. And that goes double for when you’re looking for a woman to spend the rest of your life with.
The Girlfriend Activation System is a great program if you learn fastest from videos. (Or listening to audio – the program has audio versions of all the Parts.)
Girlfriend Activation System Negative Review
Unfortunately, the Girlfriend Activation System’s strength is also its weakness. Since the content is in videos, they’re inevitably limited by time. Many of the concepts are explained scantly, leaving the viewer/listener to fill in the blanks himself.
I don’t want to throw shade at Christian – he’s really a great guy with great intentions – but he does tend to drone. His voice is calming and scholarly, which is great for storytelling. But when he attempts to hash out theories and concepts, he sounds like a boring teacher in school.
But perhaps the biggest drawback of the Girlfriend Activation System is this. It gives a long list of recommendations to help the viewer/listener get a girlfriend. Those recommendations include:
- Having your own swanky apartment
- Having wine at your place
- Having a large collection of music at your place
- Having large, interesting coffee table books at various areas at your place
- Having a comfortable bed at your place
- And other things that cost money
In a sense, it adds another barrier – a financial one – to getting a good girlfriend. And here’s why I have a problem with that…
Christian Hudson’s Girlfriend Activation System: Yay Or Nay?
Let’s compare the Girlfriend Activation System to our top-rated choice for three years running (Shogun Method by Derek Rake). The Girlfriend Activation System unnecessarily adds a financial barrier to getting a girlfriend. In Shogun Method, there’s none of that – only yourself, your goals, and your techniques.
What’s more, the Girlfriend Activation System misses a crucial piece of the puzzle. It doesn’t say much about how to KEEP a girlfriend for the long-term. It’s another blank viewers (listeners?) will need to fill in themselves.
So here are our recommendations. The Girlfriend Activation System is a good choice for you if:
- You’re relatively new to the dating game
- You are desperate to get a girlfriend quickly
- You learn better from watching videos and/or listening to audio
So if all three of the above apply to you, then by all means: get the Girlfriend Activation System. If you’re doing okay financially, then the program will change your love life for the better.
But if you want to both GET a great girlfriend and KEEP her forever…
…and if you don’t like “filling in the blanks” by doing outside research…
…and if you don’t mind to use somewhat edgy and controversial techniques (read: Mind Control and emotional manipulation) to get what you want…
…then you’re better off with something more proven and established, like Shogun Method.